Live sex or webcam sex is the new and improved version of the good old phone sex. You can actually see the person you’re talking and having “sex” with. It could be the best way to do it when you need it, but for some reason can’t do it in person – say, you’re in a long distance relationship.

For the uninitiated, it could be awkward at first, but you’ll get the hang of it. Just keep practicing! The very basic thing you should do if you’re not in a long distance relationship and just want to try it, is to look for your online webcam sex buddy.

There are people on online dating sites that are willing to do it, but you should always ask nicely. You can find experienced people and maybe they could help make it easier for you.

It’s good that you start with phone sex. Use a free chat app with a call feature like Skype or other apps. Aside from that, the only thing you need is your voice and your imagination.

Here are some basic questions to ask and topics to discuss:

1. Talk in a sexy, seductive way and ask what the other person is wearing at the moment. Remember to be very vocal about what you are thinking because that is sexy.
2. Slowly imagine that you’re undressing them or yourself. Say it and be specific.
3. Tell them what you want to do with them. It’s understood that they’re going to do it by themselves and imagining you doing it. Instruct in a very sexy manner, accompanied by compliments.
4. Use dirty words sparingly. Assess the situation if the other person likes it. How, when, and what you say is important. Remember, you’re just using your voice for now. It could add passion or it could totally ruin the moment.
5. Moan and make sexy noises so the other person knows you’re close.
6. Be thankful and appreciate the other person for doing it. For couples, consider it the after-sex cuddling.
7. You can talk about the experience and what other things you can do to improve. Especially if you’re in a long distance relationship, this is the closest thing you can do to be intimate.

If you have mastered the art of phone sex, you can now move on to live/webcam sex. It could be a little wilder because you won’t have to imagine them because you can actually see that person do it live. You can instruct them properly, see their facial reactions and think of other things to make it hotter. You can add all sorts of kinky things, like the use of sex toys or other stuff, provided the other person is game with it. Whatever you do, just practice fairness and safety. You’re safe from sexually transmitted diseases, but be mindful of people recording your steamy session to put it up on a porn site for other people to see. You can never be too careful!